# 8 Happy ever after porn king

I saw this on my Facebook newsfeed the other day.

Unfortunately, it is often true although I found it ironic that women were associated with the romance part of this statement and men with the porn. You COULD switch 'women' and 'men' around and get much the same results. 

We all want to believe in happy ever afters, that the good guys always win in the end and the baddies get their comeuppance, but it isn't always true. Scan the daily news and you'll see that. 

Human kind is a complex and ruthless creature. It can go from one extreme to another, self serving, charitable, de-sanitised and holier than thou.  Picking and choosing the ones you want to walk through life with on any level is hard. We all make mistakes, some of us more than others. There are people who instinctively find the right person early on (my parents), some of us will spend our entire lives drifting from one to the next (me). I believe there is someone for everyone but sometimes never the twain shall meet. I guess that's just tough.

 Betty Page: It's not
always about romance 

Getting balance in any relationship is key. It's about communication. This is something I harp on about often and preach to others easily but am horrendously poor at when it comes to my own personal relationships. I've been chatting to an internet friend along these lines and we've resolved that it's a defense mechanism. If people can't get under you skin, they can't harm you or find out what really makes you tick. Letting your guard down is a brave thing to do. It isn't something taken lightly.

Sometimes though things are like the movies. And sometimes relationships are like porn films. This is equally cool, but it's still about communication, knowing your boundaries and understanding the other person and their feelings within the relationship. As long as all that is in place, it can work. Which would I prefer?? Ah I'm not letting THAT one out of the bag!